Building Brothers - Helping Church Leaders Build a Spiritual Home for Men

H.B.'s Story

On Thursday, I had the privilege of addressing the members and friends of the National Coalition of Men’s Ministries. This is a loosely knit group of folks who have very strong feelings about how the church should serve its men. I do, too.

To be honest with you, I think the church as a whole has done a very poor job of seeking out “men on the fringe” and recruiting them for the work of Christ. There are several reasons for that.

1. We have feminized the church to a degree. Men are warriors and we have them singing love songs.

2. Most men have a “sitcom” attention span. They grow weary at long sermons, extended standing and messages that do not challenge.

3. Many clergy are intimidated by strong men and so we focus on those that do not threaten us. Men want their pastors to be “men of great faith and courage.” They really want to look to us as an example.

4. It takes time to serve men. If you fail to make the males in your congregation your priority of time, interest and message, your commitment to them will simply appear ordinary.

5. A men’s ministry is only as strong as the pastor and leadership are willing to fund and promote it. What works for women will not work for men.

6. If you have one man in your church, you have the potential of a men’s ministry. If you have 100 men, the needs of each man may take on a ministry of its own.

I don’t have all the answers, but I do know from experience that any church that has success in the “men’s arena” — and I am talking about the long-haul, not just an event — will have to give it the “full court” press. Most churches will not do that.

I’m asking you to think about the “men on the fringe,” those who could quietly slip away and no one would ever notice. Who looks for them? We must enlist “reliable leaders who are competent to teach others” (2 Tim. 2:2).

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